People will criticize you for things they don’t understand
If you’ve ever had a big goal, then you’ve probably already experienced this.
You’re filled with excitement, consumed by your grand vision, and are in the process of putting that vision into action… when someone decides to bombard you with unsolicited advice.
Instead of considering what you’re trying to accomplish, or at least trying to support you, all they seem to do is tell you all of the reasons why you shouldn’t be doing what you’re setting out to do. They’re a storm of negativity, and their intent is only to get you wrapped up in their doubt. Not yours. Don’t fall for it. Use that negativity as fuel to get you closer to your goal.
Their doubt is about them, not you
Not everyone lets themselves take risks. The majority of people out there will hold themselves back from reaching their full potential, based on fear.
Maybe that fear was fed to them by others who lived under a similar shadow of fear, and they’re just repeating the cycle.
Whatever the case, surrendering to your fear will only hold you back from achieving your personal, professional, and financial goals. When people who live in this state of fear see others seeking out a different level of accomplishment, their instinct — based on their own prior experiences — is to create friction. They simply can’t comprehend anything but conventional choices, conventional wisdom, and a conventional life.
This isn’t about you. This is about them. And when you find yourself in these situations with these people, you have to ask yourself if this relationship is right for you at this stage of your life.
Do you really need the negativity?
Use their negativity to propel you forward
Creating success in life and in business is never easy, even for those who have already accomplished great things. There’s always something to learn, or another new challenge to face.
The good news is, the more you expose yourself to and the more you experience, the less often you’ll find yourself making the same mistakes.
Instead of getting too distracted by the negativity of others at this transformative moment in your life, turn that doubt into positive energy that you can use to push yourself forward. Remind yourself that you’re making a choice to take a risk. But it’s not a blind risk.
You have a goal. You have a vision for that goal. And you’ve turned that vision into a series of incremental goals where each time you accomplish something, you’ve moved yourself one step closer to achieving your ultimate, overarching goal.
You’re in a state of constant learning. So give yourself a moment to take pride in that fact, and keep moving forward.
Make tough decisions about your personal relationships
Ending friendships or other relationships is never easy. Obviously, there can be emotional components to these situations, which can make distancing yourself difficult, but what if that is exactly what you need to do at this stage of your life in order to achieve your goals?
It’s not far-fetched to say that who you surround yourself with — and the influence that those people have on you — has a significant impact on your conception of yourself, your beliefs, and what you believe you can achieve.
If this were a new relationship, would you believe it was worth the investment of time and energy you’re giving it? Probably not. And while it’s difficult to part ways with people you have history with, if they’ve become a negative force in your life, then it’s probably better for both of you to have distance.
It’s tough, but it’s worth it. You’ll feel a sense of freedom once this person is no longer hanging around your neck.
Instead of surrounding yourself with negative energy, seek out the company of people who have accomplished the sorts of things you want to achieve. Put yourself in situations where the people in your circle support you, can add to your vision, and can help you achieve your personal, professional, and financial goals.
Successful people surround themselves with other successful people.
These are the people who will not only understand your journey, but they might even join you to make it that much more successful.